Well I drew up that list I mentioned in the first part of this article and found that I wasn't doing badly, although I had to drop an individual from the list. After so much thought, I discovered some people actually influence my decisions without me associating with them. I found that these influences were very present in my subconscious and my thought pattern is always subject to it.
A few of these people I stumbled on and just liked their poise and how they carry themselves, others I just loved their selective arrogance. At every point, I was moved by a particular action or by the choice not to take an action. I can say for sure that my dress sense comes from a non present association and my ability to set people right when its needed even when it feels emotionally wrong comes from someone who does not know my face let alone my voice.
How do I check these influences? Tough one. The truth is this: Are you even aware of their presence? (Are you thinking now?). Without recognizing where some traits and thought patterns originated from, it may be difficult to correct. I have a friend who will respond to every woman he met just like a character who he came across in a Sidney Sheldon book and this he never accepts. He just assumes character by default.
Its funny how the human mind works, first you see your non present friend make a decision and take an action and get a certain result and then you follow in the same order but the truth is the decision were clearly yours. Your mind only needed to see your highly respected un- present friend(s) do these things for them to be right. This is because of the credibility level you have ascribed to un- present friend(s).
You should give this some thought and try to find a source for those traits that happened to you over night. Remember, we are a product of our associations, present or otherwise.
Yours Truely,
Oluwatoyin David-Ajayi
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